I think that people who spend their lives popping from one relationship to the next are very dependent of others. I think that the best representation of that would be the movie: “How to be Single” and anime: “Nana”. People like that NEED to learn how to be alone and there are a lot of these people. Maybe they don’t know how else to be. Maybe because society pressures marriage and automatically assumes that the singles are not happy. Maybe that is why you ask this question in the first place. I have a friend who freaks out when the room is quiet, because this person is not used to be inside their own head and need more interaction with others.

And this comes down to my feelings and my reflections as a single bean: Annoyed that people make dumb assumptions on me for choosing to be single. Just because you are married or with someone for a long term doesn’t make you own someone. They have a freewill, and if they choose to cheat or leave you, they can do it no matter what they promised you or what your relationship status is. “You don’t step in the same river twice”. In this lifetime, you are bounded to “your” head. So, learn who you are and learn to take care of yourself. Those things are essential for a successful relationship. Because if you don’t know your own person and don’t know how to take care of yourself, How can you take care of others? How can you truly get into someone else’s head and understand them when you can’t do it to yourself? Being single is an essential part of self-enlightenment. Everyone should be able to have this experience and it’s sad that many don’t.

Also, I am writing this as a person in a three year relationship now. There is no way in hell would I’ve been able to keep this “particular” relationship 3 years long if I did not give myself a proper alone time, being that 3 years is not a long relationship. The person I am with had a horrible past that manifested into hardcore insecurities. I actually understand this person without experiencing his dread, I am mature enough to take this person’s shit, and I learned to love another human being unconditionally. I have isolated myself for 2 years, no contact with friends or have any relationships. This time was privately for me. There was a few moments of lonesome but only as moments, because I CHOSE to be in this position and learn my being. It really works, just think about Jesus or Siddhartha Qautama. These people gained enlightenment and changed the world through their reflections. Imagine what you can do for yourself. Read more: Dasha Chess, former Yoga Instructor, TESOL. What is it like to stay single? Answered June 15, 2020. https://www.quora.com/What-is-like-to-stay-single.