If you have any fears or wounds, insecurities or negative beliefs do the work to figure out why and forgive yourself and everyone else, not because it’s okay that it happened, but to release yourself from that pain or struggle. We all have stuff to heal from how we were raised, to things that happened to us, or whatever, and when we face it and figure out why we hold ourselves back, we can address those things.
The worst thing you can do is to be an asshole to yourself. You have to live with yourself for the rest of your life, why not be loving, appreciative, forgiving, supportive, caring, attentive, committed to yourself? People come and go, things happen, but you will be you as long as you’re alive, so be a friend, a parent, a cheerleader, a coach, and therapist, a lover to yourself. Want the best for yourself and see how much better your life becomes as you let go of everything that is not for you, everything that holds you back.
We all have the power within us to be all that we can be, it’s only our minds that hold us back and tell us things like we can’t do it, or we screwed up or we will screw up, or whatever. But those thoughts started somewhere, we weren’t born like that, being mean to ourselves, our lives created those fears because we were hurt somewhere along the line. It’s our job to heal that stuff. There’s no point in blaming anyone, or trying to get anyone to act right or struggling to get others to care or understand, but you will find that there are people out there that will, but not everyone, and that’s just part of life.
Another part of this is learning to be present, it will help with any stress or anxiety, overthinking or depression. If you realize that there’s not a damned thing you can do about the past, except to learn from your mistakes, and there’s not a damned thing you can do about the future, because it’s going to be however it is, you realize you only have this moment. You can handle this moment, you can logically know I want my life to look like “this” and in each moment I can choose to act in accordance to who I want to be. Some people find meditation helps, but so does exercising, reading, gardening, listening to music, being outdoors in nature, or doing creative projects. It gets you out of your head so you can hear yourself underneath it all. So, you know your truth, and only your truth.
Emotional balance really helps, knowing how to navigate moods or feelings and letting it come and go without judging it is important. Empathy is also huge. Understanding people, but not needing to take on their problems, or letting others drain you is a necessary skill to learn to stay loving and open to others, but not to let yourself be taken advantage of or manipulated. Read more: Cinamon Streva, Special Education Teacher (1997-present) What is the way to be emotionally strong in life? Updated answer on September 17, 2020. https://www.quora.com/What-is-the-way-to-be-emotionally-strong-in-life.
